Carry at least a couple of condoms, and carry them correctly: they can get creased and damaged in your wallet, so slip some into a metal business card holder instead. Get Durexcellent! Surely I do not need to tell you the zillion reasons why you need to use protection if a newcomer penis is going to feature in your plans. Ew! This may not be your style, but I like scented candles in my boudoir: not only do they make it smell delicious, but they cast light that’s much more flattering and relaxing than having the big bulb on. Make your bed whack dirty washing out of sight make sure there’s bog roll and baby wipes in the bathroom so it’s easy for your ONS to freshen up before you get fresh and for God’s sake, make sure there’s no poo in your loo. If you know you’re likely to be bringing someone back to your place, do at least a 10-minute basic tidy before you head out. If, afterwards, it’ll make you bawl if they don’t call, an ONS could set you up for a fall.Ĭlear the doom from your room. Be honest with yourself about the situation, and realistic in your expectations. Ensure that you’re in the right frame of mind to appreciate this. However, the majority of ONSs are just that – one-time hook-ups. Make sure your head’s in the right place (and I’m not talking about saucy positions). Many a lasting love has stemmed from what was originally intended to be a one night stand, and some people like to cut to the chase and find out quickly if they’re likely to be sexually compatible before they begin dating someone on a longer-term basis.
There are no hard and fast rules about how to make a hard and fast night go brilliantly, but my tips are designed to avoid a one night stand becoming a stand-up comedy (or worse) and instead make it stand and deliver a damn great time, and maybe even lead to more.” “Often, the one night stand – or ONS – is simply a one-off night of indulgent fun for both partners,” she says, “but sometimes an ONS can leave both parties feeling like the experience could have been better, both physically and emotionally, and perhaps stop a could-have-been relationship in its tracks if it’s disappointing. Since she’s down-to-earth about getting down ‘n’ dirty, THEGAYUK asked Alix to give some top tips on getting the best from one night stands.
Sex isn’t a competition to see who can be the most bonkers, so I’m a big believer in getting the basics right, and recognising and developing whatever works for you.” “Equally though, I don’t preach that you have to be some kind of crazy wild child in order to have a satisfying love life – not at all. “I’m a strong advocate of the idea that almost anything goes in the boudoir so long as it’s safe, consensual, and conscientiously considered, so whatever rocks your world is unlikely to shock this girl!” she smiles.